Tuesday, 2 March 2010

Dekas

I have been with the same man for ten years. He makes me laugh, cry. He makes me feel strong. He makes me feel weak. Our forces merged together and we have moved mountains. I don't know if we are soulmates .... our arguments have been too loud. Not sure how we have survived so long.

Our first photo together WARNING: DORK ALERT!!!!



Hey Dave remember that time you got cancer and survived? Remember we made sexy love time in that disgusting dunny at Balmoral? Remember how when we first got together I was so scared to give you my all so I lay down next to you and gave you my pinky? And I told you that was all I could give you right now?

Now I give you my all, mate. Everything I got. Thank you for keeping the first $20 I made from writing, as if it were something special. You tell me you're going to make a wooden frame for it and I believe you. Just like that time we went to the aquatic centre when it opened and we sat in the sauna together and you announced that you were going to build a sauna in our house.

And you built our house. And our sauna.

I think I steal pockets of your drive and ambition ... God knows I need it. We are so different.

It amazes yet infuriates me, that you do everything you say you will. How do you do that?

Stay well, mate. We are a force to be reckoned with. You teach me shit, like, how to love someone when you hate them; how to forgive after someone lets you down.

I have absolutely no clue what I teach you. Maybe, to look at the world differently. To embrace the absurd, the eccentric, the fucked-up.

I can kick your arse in a game of Trivial Pursuit, but if we were ever lost in the wilderness you could totally keep us alive.

I almost lost you, man. There's so much more than my pinky at stake now. Stay well, mate.

I love you for real.

Your loving wife, Eddie XOX

15 comments:

  1. So,so beautiful. The two of you. I bet you have taught him more than you imagine Eden.

    Congrats guys! Stay well. xxx

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  2. This is so sweet. And I love the photo.

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  3. Dear Eddie - EDDIE HAHAHAHAAAAAAAA I love that i know shit like that, that only you, hon, tee and i know about - like W Falls is 2 words, inneresting, you know? I love that i got to know that Hon of yours as well as i did, and i know it was the whole cancer fiasco that did that, and who knows what crazy fucked up reason the universe had for delivering the whole cancer-in-the-middle-of-newborn-baby fiasco but whatever the reason, there are some grace moments i personally got out of it. And those loooooong sessions watching hon chowing down on a sanger whilst hooked up to the most potent chemicals on the planet, trying to guess the arse-buzzing moments, and racking the HELL outta my brain pulling all sorts of shit outta there to talk about, anything BUT the cancer...but sometimes, all about the cancer. Anyway, i got to know that big tough guyo a bit better. We shared laughs, he proudly introduced me at any opportunity to all the nurses as his sister, i snuck out and talked to any prick in a white coat i could find about what the HELL the go was with the cancer fiasco. I LOVE the passion in your relationship - and i'm not just talkin about the sexy love time passion. You guys are so right together Eddie - i love yez xx

    PS. he ever gets rid of the "WOW" lion tattoo - he's dead meat...

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  4. Congratulations Eden! That's a lovely post there, I hope he reads it and goes all gooey!

    x

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  5. Very sweet! Do you often wear matching t-shirts?

    I don't know if soulmates exist, but I think complementary personalities do - one makes up for what the other lacks. That sounds like you and Dave. I hope you have a great many more years to argue and love.

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  6. So sweet! Print it, frame it, look at it every day - just for when you need to remember.

    Wonderful letter.

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  7. You guys are so adorable. This post is so sweet, Eden. Happy Anniversary to you guys, may it be many more!

    xoxo

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  8. Oh, E ... what a great piece. Well done.

    There was so much I could relate to ... you know we are different but the same and our relationships are different, but the same. You make me appreciate some things I knew, but didn't quite put into words.

    "I think I steal pockets of your drive and ambition ... God knows I need it. We are so different.

    It amazes yet infuriates me, that you do everything you say you will. How do you do that?"

    Oh I could say the same here.

    "You teach me shit, like, how to love someone when you hate them; how to forgive after someone lets you down."

    Mike teaches me that most of the time, it's worth the pound of flesh ... I mean ... restraint ... that it takes not to burn someone down with my very smart mouth. That leading with my fists is ~usually~ not the best choice. He also teaches me about loyalty in the face of insults and insanity. He was born getting it. And if he didn't get it, we wouldn't be together right now. I am still learning it, fiercely independant, damaged Bleep that I am.

    Just to name two things.

    "I have absolutely no clue what I teach you."

    Oh, man, only Dave could say for sure (and if he's like a lot of dudes, he probably wouldn't like to stop to write it down for fun), but darlin', but knowing you, you give as good as you get, if not better. For sure you do with me.

    I loved this:

    "I can kick your arse in a game of Trivial Pursuit, but if we were ever lost in the wilderness you could totally keep us alive."

    Hahahahahahha! You make me think about all our 'faults' ... and how we cover eachother's arses. Thank GOD.

    "There's so much more than my pinky at stake now."

    I so get that. Who knew if you stick it out through the hurling of furniture and spinning of heads it gets so good? I think we were married at least four years before I got a wiff of real committment, myself. Marriage. If it doesn't destroy you it makes you stronger. What a cliche, but hey, ain't it the truth?

    Love and health.
    XXOO
    D. was here.

    PS. Thanks for sharing the spider dream. Holy ****. More later.

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  9. Awww what a sweet post! I love every word of it, the picture too!
    *HUGS*

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  10. Nothing dork about that pic. Man, you are so disgustingly thin and cute :)

    g

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  11. I love this post. Beautiful. I wish I could write like you. I also feel I steal pockets of H's drive and ambition, and he holds me up and believes in me and laughs at my wacko ideas instead of buying me a cat and locking me up in a flat somewhere. Happy anniversary. Love the dorky photo.

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  12. Ahhhh, that's lovely. Made me cry! I hope there's a lifetime of love and happiness ahead for you all.

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  13. Oh, Eden. This is so lovely. Like palemother, there is so much in common amid much difference. Most notably in my case is the fact that Manny and I will have been together 10 years this coming Wednesday. So 10 years ago, you and I were both starting to fall in love. That makes me smile.

    Congrats, and may there be many, many more happy and crazy and hilarious and healthy and loving years together for you and Dave.

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  14. What a cute picture of you two. Great post.

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